You’re doing better than I am.
I know people. We get along. But friends? Nope.
Does my husband count? If so, one :(
It’s kinda crazy. I’m 41 now and 10 or 15 years ago i often read that people said that they have no friend. And i thought that’s more of a joke, like people knline joke about how they wanna kill themselves or whatever, because i had multiple friend groups, and would see a lot of them almost daily.
Suddenly, people moved away, were in relationships, had kids, died or you just realized that you are not friends anymore.
I talked to my girlfriend about our wedding and she asked me who i would invite. I had to think for a bit and said, i dunno, my sister… And that’s pretty much it, since i marry my best and kind of only friend. Then she thought about it and said: my parents, and… Fuck, i don’t have any friends either, except you.
We were the same. It would have been 20 people at the most, that’s with their families. We said “fuck it” and went to the courthouse. We were going to use wedding money for a honeymoon instead, but then the 2008 crash happened and we had to use it to get by almost a year of unemployment. It’s crazy how easily one becomes isolated.
That’s not sad if you like him
I’m 53 and I’ve outlived many. The few I have I don’t care to be around at all. (southern drinking buddy is maga & racist af, hear from him now maybe every 5 years)
So, 0 not counting family and their kids. I’m just content these days to watch family grow up.
edit: The biggest change to social interactions I’ve just noticed happens to be due to the legalization of weed, before that I’d have to keep a whole fucking network of associates on hand lol
Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4
Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15
Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.
I’m pretty similar but I would switch the answers on the first and third question. I have a lot more people I talk to quite frequently than people I would be interested in hanging out with.
30?? How do you keep track of so many people ^^
Most Popular Person on Lemmy here to flex on the rest of us, damn
(I kid, I’m just jealous of your social circle)
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Damn, I’m sure someone is willing to befriend you
I can confidently say 2. i can delusionally say 6.
Many comments mention “people i talk to every day”. Is that really a common thing? Literally daily? I have a couple good friends, but definitely none I talk to daily 😅
For me it is more about being friends for many years and always having a good time when we meet. At most I chat 2-3 times a week with some.
Not many
I’m 50. I only have time for acquaintances. Close friends take way too much time.
3 good ones and maybe 5 outside of that. I’m pretty bad at keeping up with them honestly. Sometimes I message them and they’re like yo its been 6 months where you been, yeah sorry I got obsessed with something and forgot the world exists.
I have 9; 5 are uni classmates I’m on a 2-semester project with, and the other 4 are:
-A retired public-sector official old enough to be my grandmother
-A semi-retired realtor also old enough to be my grandmother
-Another realtor who used to work for the first realtor but now is an exec at another company
-His notary-public and possibly-also-CIA longtime boyfriend
I think I have one. I don’t think I’ll be able to get more. 😿
People I talk to every day: 2
People I feel able to confide in regularly: 3
People I occasionally invite over for a party: 15
Acquaintances I enjoy being around at social functions: maybe 50
None of the categories count my kids, other people’s kids, or family except for my wife
Also, I think my numbers are inflated because of how many bands I was in when I was younger. The community of that music scene was something I’m not sure I’ll ever see again. But I do play dnd every week, which helps too.
- My friend and my wife. I’m not a disagreeable person. I have a fair few friendly acquaintances, but I’m not willing to put in the energy for more actual friends
I’d say I have a good handful. I’m not good at getting close to people, so some toe the line for me between acquaintance and friend. For a numerical, I suppose if we count those toeing the line - maybe a dozen or so? Maybe 15?
I’ve been very lucky as an adult to find a lot of good people. 99% of them are from playing TTRPGs online.
Where does one go to start playing these games?
It’s a bit tricky nowadays to find a solid game. There’s plenty of LFG things on either Reddit or any of the discords for your desired TTRPG - usually numbers favor DnD5e, but there’s a fair few on Pathfinder 2e nowadays too.
However, the best luck I’ve had in more recent years has been on startplaying.games - where you can find a paid DM/GM. (Not a shill, just what I have personally experienced)
I could go into what I believe the benefits of a paid vs unpaid game are, but that’s a lot of extra for just this.
