For example when you’re catching up with friends after a while

  • half coffee
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    I am autistic, which you probably could have just derived from the rest of this comment. Questions like these are so terrifying to me. So I always have a fun fact on hand.

    “What’s new?”

    “I just learned that only female cats have a calico pattern!”

    Then you can talk about cats instead of your life.

    • meowmeowmeow
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      That’s a great idea honestly. I’d love it if more people gave replies like that.

    • @EpeeGnome@lemm.ee
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      726 days ago

      You’re right, that does sound particularly like something an autistic person would say. It’s also something I’d be perfectly happy to hear and engage with.

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      It’s not an absolute rule, but it’s true in the vast majority of cases. The coloring is on the X chromosome, and males usually have only one, but some males with have an extra X chromosome (XXY) and those can be calico. It’s rare.

    • @TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
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      something like 95% of calicos are female

      color in felines is expressed on the X chromosome. humans with XX have the same kinds of patterns on their skin from combinations each parent’s DNA, but skin color isn’t expressed there so it isn’t visible

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    Something is always happening in your life.

    What you really mean is “When you don’t think that anyone would be interested in what’s happening in your life.”

    If you’ve been absorbing media, tell us what you’ve been watching/reading/playing. If you have this encounter out in public, say where you’re going now, or what you’re looking forward to doing when that’s done.

    Hell, even if you’ve been laying in bed for a week and someone asks, say you’ve been catching up on some sleep.

    There’s always something, and as mundane as you think your answer might be, it’ll be easier for them to continue the conversation on that one piece of information than saying “you know, same old”.

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    3826 days ago

    I usually go with “oh, same old same old” or “nothing fun” and try to divert back to something someone else talked about. But to be fair, I am a terrible conversationalist.

  • @Diddlydee@feddit.uk
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    3026 days ago

    It’s not a real question that requires an answer. You say ‘not much’ or ‘same old same old’ and move on.

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        Yeahhh we’re all weird at some level. But if it’s someone you were at least somewhat close with, give them a least a couple deets! I moved around for a handful of years and it’s easy to get caught up enough to forget JUST how long it’s been. It’s part of being human. No shame in it.

  • @TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip
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    If it’s someone I haven’t seen in years, talking about the big picture should be interesting enough. You know, like where I live, what do I do for a living etc.

    If it’s someone who definitely knows all that, I can mention something small but recent. Like, I just bought some weird carrot salsa, and it was surprisingly good.

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    1626 days ago

    The court order was very clear that I am not allowed to discuss that. How about you? Anything new?

      • oppy1984
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        325 days ago

        Thank you, thank you. I’d like to dedicate this award to all the antisocial people out there who just want to be left alone.

          • oppy1984
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            324 days ago

            And that’s all I’ll do, I won’t bug anyone about it or anything. I know my own kind. And since having to deal with people would be necessary to claim a portion of the prize money, I won’t even bother anyone with that!

  • @LavaPlanet@lemm.ee
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    “you know, new day, same old, how about you?” think of it as a game of catch, throw the ball back, if you don’t want to / or have a quick answer.

    • @EpeeGnome@lemm.ee
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      726 days ago

      “New toilet paper, same shit” is how an old boss of mine used to say it. Good for if you want to go clever yet crude.

  • @jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
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    Usually a brief “I just read/played/watched such-and-such”

    If they know it, we can chat about it. If they don’t, and they’re interested, we can chat about it. Otherwise, the conversation moves on and the social rite is concluded successfully.