I can’t take away the eraser or give it to him only when he asks, because I have more students.

He’s impulsive but nice. His parents know he does stuff like that.

Any ideas?

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    If the parents don’t support you, and you can eliminate the existence of mental issues that require treatment or special attention for chewie, and you can’t use a spray solution, I would go for gentle peer pressure. Point it out in class, do a friendly dressing down how none of the other students want to use the chewed on eraser. If he won’t stop if you say so, maybe you can get other kids to do the trick. The unwanted public attention from his peers might be enough. Would your principal be up for a bad cop routine where you can be the good cop?

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      I understand why you’d go there when it sounds like other options have been exhausted, but I don’t think it would be a good idea. Seems like calling the kid out like this would only open up opportunities for bullying, without doing anything to address the source of the issue.

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        I want to highlight again that this suggestion was preceded by a lengthy checklist.

        I think you and I have a different idea of what bullying is. I remember kids picking their nose in class and eating it in elementary school. I don’t think it took an intervention from the teacher to get that to stop. Just some kids going “ewww, that’s disgusting” got the message across. This is how society corrects behavior. I wasn’t suggesting a teacher goes before class, does a Nelson Ha-Ha, “look at that loser, go beat him later and take his lunch money.” Just something like “Kevin, the other kids need to use this eraser as well and they don’t like it full of spit. Please don’t chew on it. Thanks.” It signals to the kids this is not okay and I don’t think they will go full Lord of the Flies on him - keeping in mind the preconditions I had outlined above.

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          I read your checklist, and I think you missed the bit where I said “when it sounds like all other options have been exhausted”. There’s absolutely no need for the “peer pressure” component, it’s unnecessary to call out a kid on front of a class like that when you could just as easily have a private conversation with the kid about it, and I suggest you think about what it means to enable bullying without actively participating in it.

          I don’t think they will go full Lord of the Flies on him

          You have no way of accurately predicting this, because it’s children we’re talking about, and they are famously agents of chaos.

          I can’t think of a single office I’ve worked where it would be considered professional to call someone out for minorly problematic behaviour in front of all their colleagues, and I don’t see any reason it would be considered acceptable with children either.

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            It’s an enumeration of if-phrases. “If the parents don’t support the teacher” is just the first condition of many. And some things you may have to infer, like if the teacher had to talk to the parents and got cold shouldered, I think you can presume the teacher has already talked to the student too. I’m not gonna go as far as saying my post was immaculately written and presented. I would go as far as saying the options presented were at the bottom of the list. No support from the parents, maybe not even school leadership, cannot use bitter taste spray for insurance reasons, etc.

            If a teacher telling a kid to get their feet off the table, to stop shooting spit wads at the row in front of them, to stop rocking back their chair because they might tip over and fall - if all these situations are okay for a teacher to say out loud in front of the class: “Kevin, stop it!” - and I think they are - then telling the kid not to chew on communally shared erasers is no different. Claiming this will immediately lead to bullying or just the threat that it might do is to an extent quixotic to me. If teachers will not assert their authority ever for fear of what the chaos kids will do, they might as well pack it in then.

            Your office comparisons are insignificant here. Elementary school is a different sport entirely. There is a difference between coworkers sharing an office hierarchy and the power, responsibility, and maturity differential students/teacher, never mind the fact that offices shouldn’t employ 9yos.

            OP has weighed in against the suggestion anyway. I’ll defer to them because they know more about this case than you or I.

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              This is how society corrects behavior

              Followed by

              Your office comparisons are insignificant here

              Really? School is where we learn how to treat other people, and we learn it by example as much as being told (more than, I’d contend).

              Claiming this will immediately lead to bullying or just the threat that it might do is to an extent quixotic to me

              First off, quote where I claimed it would immediately lead to bullying (good luck). Secondly, yes, whether believe it or not a teacher engaging in this behaviour signals to the other children that it’s okay, there’s an extremely elevated chance that they will take that and run with it.

              If a teacher telling a kid to get their feet off the table, to stop shooting spit wads at the row in front of them, to stop rocking back their chair because they might tip over and fall - if all these situations are okay for a teacher to say out loud in front of the class: “Kevin, stop it!” - and I think they are - then telling the kid not to chew on communally shared erasers is no different.

              Telling, yes. They’ve already told them to stop it. Your suggestion, however, was

              I would go for gentle peer pressure. Point it out in class, do a friendly dressing down how none of the other students want to use the chewed on eraser. If he won’t stop if you say so, maybe you can get other kids to do the trick. The unwanted public attention from his peers might be enough.

              “peer pressure”, “dressing-down”, “maybe you can get other kids to do the trick”. That last one in particular. How exactly do you think the other kids would do the trick? Harass the child into stopping, yeah? Or are you gonna come out now claiming that kids are masters of nuance and they’ll be able to get him to stop without resorting to bullying? Your initial suggestion was bad, but at this point you are being absolutely ridiculous. OP “weighed in against the suggestion” with the words

              Kids at that age are ruthless, I absolutely can’t do that

              And yet you still want to act like I’m in the wrong for saying that it would open the child up to bullying. An absolutely mind-blowingly dumb argument. I sure hope you’re not responsible for children with this kind of thinking; I had a few teachers like you and I hated them for it.

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                My word choices have given you the impression of a scheming Machiavellian teacher who reenacts the Spanish Inquisition on the boy until his classmates pelt him to death with rotten eggs. That’s on me, it’s not what I meant. I think I’ve added enough clarification in this thread at this point. So I won’t go into it again.

                The opinion of one teacher, one that due to the question they asked initially and the forum they asked it in, and a few down votes are, I feel, not enough to call my argument dumb. Never mind the more personal attack that followed. Tackle the ball, not the player. If you want me to change my mind, that is.

                There is a whole field of study for this, pedagogy. I am sure the first chapter of the book isn’t “kids are ruthless. The end.” I remain unconvinced that my approach, where my suggestion was preconditioned on many things to have happened first, is the worst one until I hear something that isn’t that or teetering on the edge of name calling.

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      Point it out in class, do a friendly dressing down how none of the other students want to use the chewed on eraser.

      Seems like a great way to get your own private eraser!

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        They sell stuff called Chewelry; it’s a necklace or wristband you can chomp on.

        Maybe get the kid one of those? If not, maybe make one out of a piece of string and eraser?

        This one’s for chewin’, this one’s for undoin’.

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          This is something the parents should do - along being in the driver’s seat of correcting this behavior in their 9yo. In times of teachers crowd funding classroom supplies, I don’t think it’s fair to suggest “throw money at it” to a teacher. It’s not going to cost $5 just once and that’s it. If you have to beg for boardmarkers in general, this will be a line item that matters.