my father is religious, I’m not and I don’t care what happens to my body after I die. Burn me, use me to feed stray cats.
To me, wasting money to buy a plot of land so I may be buried with them when I die is a stupid idea.
It is, however, his money. Who am I to disagree with him?
Under most circumstances you will have more time to decide this than your father.
Let him do what he needs. Don’t argue. Again, your decision will likely get to come after he has passed.
It’s his money. Let him do it, if it makes him happy. You don’t have to use it.
One thing that does matter: regardless what they do with your body, it costs money, usually money that comes out of your estate or gets dumped on your children.
Having a pre-designated tomb already paid for alleviates that at least, much less cost on your loved ones and one less thing for them to have to worry about in their time of grief.
It can be kimd of challenging to, right in the middle of grieving, having to stop and handle all the beaurecracy and pricing and etc.
Having that settled ahead of time allows your loved ones to focus on just grieving. And I think thats good.
You might not realize it but I think this alone demonstrates your dad is thinking about you here, he is handling his own funeral proceedings so you wont even need to think about it when the day comes. Thats a very kind thing to do, even if he doesn’t say it.
I don’t care what happens to my body after I die
There’s your answer. You don’t care but he does. Let him do it if it gives him peace of mind.
I don’t know how much money it costs, but if it’s not going to financially hurt him and you don’t care about your burial, then it seems fine. Like I don’t believe in religious stuff, but other people do and I understand why. But you don’t even really need to get that deep into it. It’s a thing he wants and will make him happy. Just think of it like any other purchase.
My father has also had an obsession about the family burial plot. I personally don’t give a shit where my carcase goes after I’m gone.
Those things can also be ‘segregating’. Me and my wife are invited, but my sisters spouse is not. Father never approved him because he’s a latino. He really doesn’t care, but it’s still an a nasty statement.
I agree with you that it is just so stupid.
How people deal with death is wild to me. When I was still in college the brother of an old high school friend died so I received an invite to the funeral.
Keep in mind this was 30+ years ago. My old buddy, who was working a retail job went 25,000 USD in debt to fund the funeral. It was absurd how much he borrowed. By comparison two years later when I graduated college I was 23,000 in debt.
I also agree with you, when I die, take as many organs as you can, use the left overs for medical students and after throw the rest in trash, use it to feed the fish, whatever…
That’s a crazy amount of money.
My dad died earlier this year and my mom paid over USD 6.000 for the wake, cremation, gravesite etc. I thought that was a lot of money for a completely average and modest service.
I’ve never understood why dying has to be so expensive. I think it is kind of offensive that they charge you even for a cremation and an unmarked grave. We are all going to need our earthly remains disposed of sooner or later and the cemetery and the crematorium are already both public property so what’s the point in charging people? It’s not like you can just go without. I can accept charging people if they want to keep the gravesite after the urn/coffin has decomposed or if they want cemetery staff to keep the gravesite instead of doing it themselves but the basic option should be a public utility like parks or libraries.
In Hasanabi’s Cuba video two nice ladies were joking about how outrageous it is that in capitalist countries people have to pay to bury their loved ones.
