Brass bell you say?

99% of the internet is trash. Pages bouncing all over while loading, constant cookie or login popups (even with various blockers), links not connecting, old long outdated content being pushed to the front of searches, junk AI slop non-answers articles or marketing lists about a problem vs actual detailed answers…

Then there are all the various billing systems for various marketplaces, that all wanna require memberships for one time sales, before they tell you the shipping cost.

And so so much more.

It’s all heavily dysfunctional and lame and not user friendly at all anymore.

Ran into this on newpipe last week, just loaded a webpage in mobile Firefox then went back to newpipe and refreshed the page.

Not sure about your situation, but there are definitely work arounds for some situations.

I only hate you because of the color of your shirt!

Can not both be true?

I only pee in other people’s showers.

My grand pappy worked on parts used for those moon buggies. He was pretty knowledgeable about them and proud of his work.

Would be pretty shitty for him to have learned it was all staged.

He was a hard ass too, ex British Navy.

I don’t think it wise to hire people like him to work on projects you intend to use to lie to and betray the public.

Pretty sure it’d be more cost effective and safer to just hire joe schmoe to work up some gadget in his garage, or to handle it in house. Why hire outside professionals and actually do the real work to just lie about the outcome.

What is a reddit?

Shouldn’t ‘tell them off’ at all either.

Teach to the problem. Or moderate it.

Allow the person to continue coexisting.

If you want to invite them to reexamine their behavior… Actually do that, not the other more aggressive, offensive, and immature thing… Then play it off as something more.

‘fuck you!’

‘fuck me?’

‘no, no, that’s not what I meant!’

Just say what you actually meant!

It’s funny watching this argument.

I’m from a very hippy community.

I’m a collectivist.

I’m extremely far left & progressive.

I’m wholly anti-fascist.

I’m also 100% in agreement with you regarding including differing opinions regardless of how extreme.

Inclusivity only brodens the divide and limits opportunities for people who harbor extremist views to be influenced toward developing more balanced, functional, and beneficial perspectives.

Moderation can be used to soften their influences in our commuty while including them allows our community to influence them.

‘You people’ is typically defined by the attached action. ‘You people’ are the people who actually do that thing, whatever it is.

If you don’t do it, ‘you people’ is not you.

If you do do it, ‘you people’ is you.

The point is not about ‘who’, it’s an oppositional statement about the ‘what’, the action, and implies it’s bad, or more importantly that the speaker doesn’t approve.

Like: ‘You people, always with the child raping.’

If you don’t rape children, ‘you people’ isn’t you.

But also, the speaker is implying that child raping is bad, or something they don’t approve of, and something they don’t do.

Then you rule them out on those basis, not their general ‘right wing’ classification.

Include everyone, but exclude specific content.

The ‘go away’ or ‘go back’ BS is exclusive, not inclusive, and should be moderated similarly to bigotry.

Also–there’s always more–if you live with somebody and they say you need to clean up a mess, right then is the time to do it. Unless you are making food at that moment or are in the middle of something really important, like tending to a wound, or putting out a fire.

At that moment your companion is being your reminder, so make use of that opportunity!

You can also create that opportunity by asking somebody in your life who is good at managing things to come over occasionally and help guide you. Not do it for you. Just look over a space and give you direction, then hang out and keep you company.

Have a few drinks or buy them dinner after.

A lot of folk are embarrassed by their messes, but as long as you’re not inviting a nagging judgemental nasty mother-in-law type over, I think you’ll be suprised how understanding your friends and family can be when you admit you know your ADHD is holding you back but step-up and ask for direction occasionally with cleaning.

Get guidance per problem, apply solutions when able, don’t beat yourself up when you slip up, that’s going to happen, just re-apply the solution when you realize your slacking at that thing again.

To-do lists and guides and reminders are really the best, but still most will fall out of the habit and have to dig back in periodically.

Reminders get skipped, distractions will happen. It’s okay. That’s normal for you (and most people actually). But keep the reminders and guides and lists anyway, everytime you encounter them there’s another opportunity to accomplish something.

If you realize you’ve slacked off cleaning, for example, and you have a detailed checklist for deep cleaning each room, you can right then grab the list off the clipboard on your wall and start working through as much as you can before you get distracted or have to sleep or whatever.

If it’s all broken out onto little things it’ll be less daughting, just hyper focus on that one thing until it’s done, if possible. Then move onto the next if you have time still.

Don’t kick yourself if you get sidetracked and clean up some clothes in your bedroom after picking up a sweater from the living room, instead of finishing in the living room, as long as you’re still plugging away at cleaning some you are doing fine.

And you don’t have to do everything all right now.

There’s probably too much to do for that to be a reasonable expectation anyway.

And there’s no right order, except if you notice you don’t have any clean clothes or dishes or TP or food at the moment, then probably prioritize addressing those things first.

You can buy cleaning and chore checklist online. And there are daily journals designed for peeps with ADHD that have spaces for a few check list items, spaces to log positive reflections, chore or cleaning suggestions.

You can go through them in advance and add occasional reminders for tasks you know you forget. Or you can try filling out a couple things for tomorrow before bed today. Try different things. And whatever works best for you, or works at the moment, that is great.

If you use any of this, remember it doesn’t have to be every day. Just keep the tool accessible, mount them on the wall or dedicate a space where they are less likely to get burried, use them as much as you can, and forgive yourself for missing days or taking breaks, or misplacing them.

That stuff happens. It is okay.

It’s also important to date the new ones when activated, so that they can be replaced at the appropriate time 10yrs from now, even if it’s not you doing it.

Edit your comment and I’ll maybe come back and bother with voting.