I have had to make that choice and now that I’m no longer in that situation, I agree with everything he wrote. Now that I’m able to cover my expenses and have some savings, I’m fairly comfortable, and the desire to make more money has faded away. There’s a lot of things I prioritize over more money.

Perhaps watch one of their numerous huge rallies or speeches where they outline exactly what they are running on. Two screenshots you took of a website are meaningless.

Wouldn’t these be more directed at the employees of the ER and not the patients?

If she had only known the anxiety that drove that draft out of you she probably wouldn’t have been mad. Well, if you’re like me at least.

Yeah “common sense” is normally just “things I believe with no justification so I can’t explain why I believe them.”

Same here. If something is on fire it’s fun to deal with and easy to hyper focus on till it’s resolved. If it’s repetitive everyday kind of stuff, ughhhh.

Exactly. No idea why people have downvoted you.

Our happiness relies on being able to accept the limitations we have. If others can’t accept them that’s on them. And honestly it’s not that big a deal. I am successful and have been in the same profession for over 20 years. Everyone I work with knows about it and works with me. I also work around their limitations. That’s just part of being on a team.

I think this may be a misunderstanding of what they are saying.

If you think I’ve forgotten a task you asked me to do, then I probably have. Say something. Don’t sit there stewing like I forgot it on purpose.

It’s not about them constantly checking up and reminding, it’s about reacting with anger to something we have no control over.

There’s also a big difference between “I’ll never be on time” and “there will be times I’m late because I have adhd”. But seriously if someone can’t handle my adhd symptoms I don’t expect them to, but they should also not expect me to care that they can’t deal with them. Because I don’t.

I do the opposite and tell everyone. I am who I am and they can accept me or not, no skin off my back. But when I eventually forget something, I’d rather them already know it’s not personal or because I don’t care, in fact it’s not about them at all. It’s because my brain just sabatoges me sometimes.

I feel ya man and to be honest I understand what you are getting at more than I understand what others are trying to say, so I just wanted to point that out.

If we let others know of our limitations and they expect us to magically overcome those limitations that’s on them.

Example: I forget things ALL the time. I can’t control what I forget. I try to ensure that I do things to help me remember. But I will forget things. If I’ve explained that to someone and they still get angry with me over forgetting something, that’s their problem. My forgetfulness is far more stressful to me than it is to them and I’m not taking on any extra guilt for their unreasonable expectations of me. I’ll apologize and move on.

This already exists in iOS with photos, and contacts are in iOS 18

Renting: cheaper is almost always better.

Purchasing: it can make sense to get the nicest place you can afford, with the expectation that your pay will increase but your mortgage won’t.

I am asking this in all earnest, even though some may interpret it as trolling.

Your comment history says otherwise. I’m gonna just go ahead and block you.

So I don’t have any curiosity about experiencing any of these things in person but I do definitely enjoy the adrenaline rush of being scared. I try to watch scary movies hoping it will bring back that fear I’d get as a kid where it felt like it took me 30 minutes to get down the dark hallway to my room because I was scared after staying up to watch scary movies.

So I definitely chase that scared feeling, but not with real life events. This could be because I have witnessed a few horrifying things in real life and I know it’s not the same feeling - you get an adrenaline rush yes, but you’re left with a despair afterward, unlike watching a scary movie or something on tv.

Still, some of the way you described this resonated with me in some way.

Me too, but it hides under my beard so it’s not really visible anyway. It does occasionally itch, but not too bad. I like my beard more than I hate the dermatitis.

I have this and it is exactly how mine looks too. It also clears up generally within a couple of days after I shave. I also get it on my scalp and on my sternum, which I think is common with it.

So I’ve been reading your comments and I hear what you are saying but I kinda feel like this goes beyond adhd and into something else.

What, I’m not sure. I can only speak from my experience, but I never feel like I have to adjust my behavior for anyone else. I am unaware of time, things not directly in front of my eyes, how loud I get, yes, but no one else notices or cares about these things, or in the case that they do, they tell me.

It seems like you’re saying you are constantly questioning everything you do (correct me if I’m wrong)- and if so, that’s not sustainable, and not something you should have to be doing. That puts an incredible amount of pressure and stress on you. This would be horrible for a neurotypical person but for someone with adhd even more so! We have too many things going on in our minds already to be able to worry about stuff like that all the time on top of it!

I almost wonder if your fear about how you might be affecting others is outsized because of a traumatic experience or chain of experiences in childhood or earlier in your life?

Anything put together by Dj cummerbund:

https://youtu.be/rFZwi2Z9G7A?si=bVdtBupjUg-sV5a2

They make all my neurons fire at the same time and make me feel alive. So maybe not “about” adhd, but for people with adhd.

Possible, sure. Easy? Not really.