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  • cybirdman@lemmy.catoADHD@lemmy.worldWell I finally did it. Updated*
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    18 days ago

    My advice is you’re not broken, or dysfunctional. Take the meds if they help you, and if they don’t, that’s also fine.

    I took the meds and went to therapy. The meds helped but caused other undesirable side effects as well as anxiety. I tried all of them with same results. My therapy ended up focused on making me understand I’m not broken or worse than other people.

    Now I’m off the meds and doing better than ever because I finally understood my forgetfulness and other adhd symptoms are only a problem to others. I’m a functional adult, remember the important things, make effort when I can and I’m allowed to make mistakes. Others need to adjust and understand more than I do.

    I am not saying that I don’t care about others, or how my adhd affects them, because I do. I make so much effort to mask and to please, that it causes me pain and anxiety. I had to learn to be nicer with myself, to allow mistakes and see that others make mistakes too. Now that I have accepted that, the forgetfulness got better too, because my confidence is higher and my anxiety is almost gone.

    Hope this helps



  • That’s fair, it was based on a similar browser called Arc that had ambitions to reinvent browsing. That one was chromium based though and maintenance stopped when they wanted to create another AI powered browser. Then the Zen people recreated Arc as an open source browser based on Firefox. I was already used to Arc so Zen was familiar.

    I think there are a lot of benefits to the way the UI is laid out, give it a try you without changing any defaults for a week or so, you might get hooked.





  • I think it’s good that you gave it a name, it’s the first step towards acknowledging that it’s not rational thought and can be ignored safely. There’s definitely nothing wrong with you in the sense that you’re not crazy, but it sounds like you might have a lot of trauma and CBT should help. But it’s a long process and sometimes its two steps forward, one step back. Just stick with it and see if it improves.

    I’m not at all a professional and you don’t have to listen to my advice, but my wife has had a similar issue and she called hers a name too. It helped her a lot over the years to realize how she could turn that voice down. What really helped her though was to cut off her family, as they were the ones that gave her this voice after all. She had a lot of trauma related to family.

    Hope that helps, or at least makes you feel better about it. This voice is not shameful. You’re just human and coping with life.