“Neurotypical” people aren’t as aware of differences due to being the “dominant” group. They often have a herd mentality and join whatever dunks on others best to come on ‘top’.

How about LibreWolf?

Waiting for the orange turd and the Russian baldhead to kick their buckets.

Just hopping in to say, first of all:

as a queer person, i’m genuinely super proud of you for realising this, and improving. you’re awesome 💕

the way i see it, you don’t need to embrace or approve of what others do - but letting them and treating them like ‘vanilla cishet’* people would get treated (ie. with respect), goes a long way. When you’re in a sauna and there are gay people, ask yourself: would I comment on a straight couple being together?

everyone has their own preferences. it’s normal to have the things you like and dislike; though it’s not normal to mistreat others for it. in that sense, your ick for lesbian stuff (but liking other stuff) is fine, to the extent that you don’t harm or hate on others for having their preferences. so imho, that part isn’t homophobic.

whether or not you were a homo-/transphobe is not for me to decide. i think the bullying counts, though; but no need to beat yourself up over what happened; the past is the past, you’re working on a great future.

Apologising in earnest to the victim, if they’re open to it, can help. he doesn’t need to accept it (nor do you), but to you both, it’d be a weight off your shoulders. Closure helps a lot in dealing with that shit.

I don’t think one needs to overworry or overthink it – it’s valid to be concerned; but at the end of day, we’re all people, and you’re welcome too.

* only saying this because in my view, the ‘vanilla cishet’ person doesn’t exist, just as the full-of-fetishes/kinks queer person doesn’t exist. It’s a spectrum which is best seen as, “Who cares, but support for anything that’s mutual between consenting people of mature age, and support for whatever makes their life easier”.

Personally I never really had the “2 same gender ppl together weird” thingy, but ironically now that I’ve come out, I notice it more in my mind that I have those feels. And that annoys me as I want to not have that feel. So I try to ‘CBT’ myself by subtly smiling at those couples too, trying to make sure they feel safe and at ease too.

I think it comes from a perception of envy, that I’m projecting it onto others: why them but not me? I try to combat it too by realising that it’s not ‘not me’; I need to go out and look for it, to have it too.

It’s a whole journey of self exploration and realisation. If there’s any good place to ask, it’s on Lemmy, and since it’s in good faith (realising that homo- and transphobia is in fact, indeed bad), it’s especially a good way to learn how to deal with your feels. Best to have a qualified psychologist you personally know and trust, though. One that doesn’t dismiss your concerns, but listens and understands, guides to help yourself improve.

Harsh no, give me liberty.

Safety must necessitate a non-authoritarian society.

chav, unfortunately

Embrace, Extend, Extinguish, but only for bigger cooperations.

As in, extinguish them. Make it far more attractive to not be at a big soulless corpo.

The workers, 100%.

The difference between even a millionnaire and a billionnaire is one billion.

It’s such a large gap that in my view, no one really could claim to be a “temporarily embarassed billionnaire”. Nobody is; there are only workers and there are oligarches.

Good usage of the dyslexia friendly font

Identity theft. Because it is: they will steal your identification data and sell it to the highest bidder.

Pro-tip: block using keywords. Some instances also are defederated from others, meaning you don’t see their comments or posts.

Where did I talk about a 4-year-old? I’m not exactly appealed with you putting those words in my mouth.

That said, obviously there is a big difference. I already mentioned the gentle guidance, for that sixteen year old; eg. that if they ever have questions concerning the house maintenance and all that, they should always feel free to come ask you.

And… these aren’t really dangerous years to be unsupervised. In fact, I think it’s more dangerous to live supervised by a deeply controlling helicopter parent, evangelist family.

As I said: gentle guidance. I ask you to read before commenting.

Going by all your comments, honestly, I’d say, why not? You get privacy, your kid grows independent. Try it out for half a year or year at least.

Make clear arrangements:

• Clean your apartment every once in a while.
• Take good care of yourself, but don’t be afraid to ask for help.
• Pay utility bills themselves.

You could give a low allowance (so you can pay the rent for them). Once they work/study and can pay rent themselves, offer that they pay rent themselves in exchange for a higher allowance.

Or withhold a bit of the allowance (10%/mo?), and later together pick out a useful household item to buy, from that withheld bit.

You could try doing it with a trial for say, half a year, if that goes well, perfect.

Other than that, let 'em go for it.

That is strange reasoning. Not living on your own doesn’t help you mature or grow independent at all. It’s the reasoning insecure or helicopter parents tend to give.

People here move out earlier all the time. I think it’s a great way to foster independence and selfcare.

As long as the kid is gently guided (eg., put rules on paying a relatively low rent, don’t discriminate, that stuff), and knows they can ask questions re: “parent, how do I … X” and feel secure, that is good. A good parent raises their kid to be independent, not obedient like a dog.

Maybe the surveillance cameras need to be destroyed. Safety can only be achieved when the Epstein creeps can’t spy!

If CNN bent the knee to Trump, I wouldn’t trust it.

Better to look at news from elsewhere.

Life is too short
Make of it
What you can

It’s not about crime or anything. Fascists always seek control. They are insecure and yet try to create the image of being in power. The machismo is all there is for them: they want to stifle and silence opposition. Which we won’t let happen! All of us share the same fight: against that Epstein creep.

Release the Epstein Files And Step Down

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