Lmao Tone is hard to read, I wasn’t upset so if I came across that way my apologies, I was just adding more info in response to points you had raised.

I would assume if they meant it as some kind of a dig, they wouldn’t accept the invitations to hammock with us. Their tone was friendly, it’s just not a term I’ve heard and given the different comments so far, it seems to be a mixed bag as to whether other people would consider it an insult or a compliment.

Really though given the context, I’m going to take it as a compliment even if it was meant as an insult.

I have no job currently, my clothes are mostly 5+ years old with most of my stuff being around 10 years old from my last retail job when I got them discounted and on clearance, my car rolled off the line before I was conceived and has the damage that says it lives in deer country, and my food comes from wherever is cheapest.

And they all know these things since we talk about such things at meets along with basically every other topic. pretty much everyone is in the same boat, and with only one exception we all live with roommates and parents.

If you’re thinking of a 2010 hipster with a man-bun and Abercrombie clothes driving their Leaf from the iPhone store to the fancy food market where everything is 5x the price because someone put the word “organic” in front of “tomato”… I mean, imagine me however you wish, but we are definitely more the type to live in a log cabin we built ourselves away from any kind of technology. I like what gadgets I do have, but I’d trade them for “not living in capitalism hell” any day.

Lmao “upper”

I have no job currently and can’t afford more than basics for food, but thanks for making assumptions.

A bit more of a relatable explanation than UD gave me, and honestly I doubt it was meant negatively as most of the people in this group are very left leaning and while a few aren’t quite “paint a brick rainbow and smash a cop’s window” levels yet, they’re certainly closer than anyone else in my life. We have discussed camping so several at least enjoy outdoorsy stuff.

I like my gadgets if I could live in the woods with 15 other people and grow out own food and not have to worry about dying of gangrene I’d give all my things up in a heartbeat.

By this metric, I’ll be “crunchy” over “silky” any day of the week.

Oh man, urban dictionary is still going? I haven’t seen them in forever…

If that’s how they meant it… I mean, it’s pretty spot on.

I’ll take it as a compliment, then!

I personally believe it is on purpose, to try and get you to download the app.

Then they can get way more of your data to sell.

🤮 What a fucking terrible day for eyes.

Still every day I hear “it’s not all black and white we can’t act rashly” shut the fuck up cletus you’re just a brain-dead tongue happily licking the shit off MAGAs boot.

I my experience, the oldest child is forced to mature faster by being required to perform childcare duties, especially in families with many children.

Younger siblings basically “get to be a kid” longer than older ones.

This is unfair to both older and younger siblings for a myriad of reasons, but both are a failure of parenting, and society as a whole. The parents should not be forcing the dynamic, and society should not be putting parents in a position where they feel they have to.

As for “feeling immature” as an adult… That is entirely dependent on what you measure maturity by. My wife and I sing nonsense tunes at each other, sometimes just look up and go “QUACK!” for no reason. We have gone to a playground to go swinging. We have gone outside to play in the snow.

I didn’t get my first job without my mother’s help until 20. I didn’t get my license until 26. I didn’t get my first full time job until 33. I absolutely hate going to a store at all, let alone by myself. Although if I’m being honest I would rather go by myself since it’s faster and less chance of my wife grabbing 10 extra things because we passed the aisle and she went something snack-y.

Remember, “Autism Spectrum Disorder” is, as the name implies, a spectrum. As such everyone is on it. Most people are gathered in a general area area (the people who would be considered “normal” by someone who has a more traditional old way of thinking) I personally believe I’m a little further toward the “autism” side, based on a bunch of comparing my personal experience with others who are diagnosed. I don’t believe it’s that big a deal for me, as I am fully capable of functioning on my own as an adult.

A bit of armchair psychology, I’d wager you’re a bit like my wife and due to narcissistic and withholding parents you likely need more reassurance than the average person. This isn’t a failure on your part at all, and it’s not a “developmental disability” it’s just a bit of childhood trauma.

To answer more directly:

In my opinion, yes eldest siblings often mature faster. Feeling immature is probably normal, and maturity is a pretty vague notion in general. ASD in general isn’t as big a deal as many people think. If you’ll forgive me for saying so, your family kind of sucks.

Sorry for being unable to answer the woman side of the question. 30s, “male” but honestly could also qualify as “closeted genderfluid” or “agender” maybe, I don’t know.

Never really felt “masculine” in the stereotypically toxic way older generations and conservatives are obsessed with, and if I’m being honest I’ve always wanted breasts and to look more feminine but have no desire to have any sort of “bottom surgery”

My wife has encouraged me to grow my hair out, but honestly I’m not sure what to do with it. I just put it in a ponytail, sometimes for multiple days in a row. But I want to do more stuff with it. Executive dysfunction goes great with a lot of things…

Although I would like to appear more feminine, I hate makeup. I have done musical theater since middle school and absolutely hate the feeling of stage makeup. I understand there are different types of makeup and I’m sure proper application would feel less like a layer of clay and more like a light dusting.

Some days I want to go out wearing women’s clothes, but never have. Some days I feel like wearing work jeans and a ratty t-shirt full of holes but it’s comfy. Some days I feel like a gelatinous blob only constrained by sweat pants.

Fuck labels, do you.

Lmao my mom used to say real men don’t cry.

One day as a teen I was angry and tearing up and she said that, so I just screamed at her “I’VE SEEN DAD AND GRANDPA BOTH CRY SO SHUT THE FUCK UP” And honestly I think she realized she was wrong at least about that, because she has never said it since even to my sister’s kids, and I didn’t even get in trouble for swearing at her.

Cry away, fellow human. Disregard those who cannot allow themselves to feel emotions for fear of seeming “less than”.

I’d say it’s not weird to wonder, but it is a little unhealthy if that’s what you assume is the truth every time.

That said, how often does internet go out for you?

I live on the same grid as a hospital so my power almost never goes out, and live close enough to several cell towers my phone can use that cell service isn’t a problem.

So if my internet goes out, I assume my provider is having technical problems.

You should know! I consider it important information that is necessary for life, as now you get to imagine every songbird tossing in a “cunt” or “good on ya” while twittering away.

Some AAA game company releases a big-budget title that turns out to be a complete buggy mess (like MindsEye)

[FREE SPACE] contenders in here, but I like this one the best. The next one is a very close second.

I haven’t made it past s3 of Quantum Leap yet, but the bit with god sound super dumb, so I’m hoping you’re right and I’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Krycek in X-Files was a piece of shit and I hated him. 10/10 performance from Nicolas Lea. Haven’t finished the series yet.

Damn, I keep burning myself out by binging a series and never finishing them…

If you’ve got any sci-fi show hot takes, I’d love to hear them!

I mean, half of my hammers have had their handles remade with whatever hardwood was closest. So I’m gonna go with those.

However, the most complex thing that I can repair with sourced parts would be either my truck, or my truck. I’ve had to fix it with “close enough” parts before, and I will fix it until the frame rusts (which given Northern states and salted roads probably won’t be more than a few more years)

There’s a smattering of electronics that I’ve seen mentioned multiple times as well.

One thing that is theoretically repairable, but is hard to find parts for, my washing machine. It’s a old 50s model with a lever to engage the motor, a roller on top to squeeze water out, and a simple steel gear system to drive everything. I should be able to open it up with a crescent wrench and flat head screwdriver, but I doubt I will ever be able to find ready-made parts (I have looked briefly when I thought I had a problem with it that sorted itself) but I might be able to bodge some things together if needed.

I saw a post asking the same thing the day I joined lemmy dot world with my first account.

That was a couple years ago now. I think I’m on my third instance?

To me it’s felt more like “look at me I’m so unique”

“are corporations whose sole purpose is to extract as much money from the masses as possible with no thoughts to anything else up to and including destroying the house it occupies in order to maximize profits to blame for the world around us? Or is it those dirty fucking people with all their bad gross nasty purchasing of the things the corporation shoves down their throats?”

I’m sorry but did a CEO write this?

I guess Google just says “fuck 'em”?

Yes, 100%, absokutely correct.

Google is a company.

Companies do not care about you. You are not a person, you are a number.

Former Christian here: it is a cult. Full stop. You are throwing your decisions around based on a belief that there’s some magical perfect happy place we all get to go.

Starting from that alone means we have VASTLY different goals. So many Cultists believe no matter what they do they’re still going to paradise so fuck whatever happens here.

The staunch angry denial without a hint of reflection on how religion has undeniably damaged the world is very telling about what OP is willing to accept. I recognized religion has failed the world even when I was still religious.

No, I don’t know there’s nothing after we die, but I DO know there are things HERE AND NOW that need more ACTUAL FUCKING WORK and your prayers are worth the toilet paper I’ll print them on.

And I am so fucking tired of “well they aren’t TRUE Christians because we don’t get taught that” any of the many, many, many, many, TOO FUCKING MANY TIMES when Christians, ÉN MASSE , do shitty things. No TRUE scottsman… My brother in education, you cannot keep saying your religion is peaceful when it rather spectacularly and historically is extremely violent.