Not for a single task but for an activity or a chain of activities that rely on each other and only make sense when I do them all after each other.
The biggest example of such a big activity chain in my life would be going to the gym: where the entire chain of activities (from getting ready for the Gym to coming home and showering after it) takes almost the whole day and if I know that I can’t just do it for 5 minutes.
It looks like most of these are not therapy services
It don’t have to be an app, I ask for online therapy in general
Yes, it would be much for fun in the long run. But for some reason this doesn’t change my behavior and I hate my self for this
I would like to have a god one day, but as long as I can’t even take care of my self, I don’t want a pet to be dependent on me taking care of it.
"Do you have anyone you can be accountable to? Sibling, friend, partner, etc that you trust? " I am living with my parents, and I am very ashamed things like my sleeping habits and always beeing late. But this doesn’t seam to help
I DO NOT want to live like this. The statement is only describing that the solution is not to only do things that are more fun
I remember from the time when I have last taken medication, that the effects is usually starting when tacking the pill in the beggining of the day, and then wear down at the end. But my problem is my biggest problem a during the end of the day.
I guess many of us can learn more from Minecraft then from school. Minecraft teached me basic principles of economy and bussines, when I was playing on server’s that had a big economy
When I can’t get off my phone, I switch the display from colour to greyscale, and about 15 minutes later it’s much easier to put the device down. NB make a shortcut so that it’s easy to change the colours without leaving the app you’re in.
I enabled this has an automated feature, but most of the time, I turn it off manually without thinking much about it
If an alarm is really important, I put the alarm clock on the other side of the room. Close enough that I can’t ignore it but far enough that I have to stand up and walk over to switch it off.
This could work if I put the alarm in a difficult to reach position, so I realy need to stop the current thing to reach it, and then it may be easier to start the next thing?
I combine activities to keep my brain sufficiently stimulated e.g. listen to a podcast or music while doing something repetitive. So when task switching, my 1st step is fun, deciding what I want to listen to.
I think listening to music could be a good task switcher, especially if the music is motivating
I try to avoid digital content that I identify as being addictive or very difficult to break out of. Natasha Dow Schüll defines what she calls the “ludic loop”, which is an activity that is solitary, doesn’t include natural breaks, doesn’t have a definite end, and has random rewards.
This definition seems to match on almost all digital activities?
I don’t think this is always possible. Researching something in the internet or playing a video game, will probably always be more interesting then to some necessary daily routines
Can I ask what medications you take?
“I also used cigarettes to ‘mark’ the transition between activities. They help, and also are rotten bad for your health, expensive, and stink like hell.” Do you think something more healthy, could also work? But it most be limited in time so it doesn’t become the next activity I can’t stop.
Disobeying my own schedules and reminders is one of things that I disrespect my self the most for, but I just can’t really figure out how to make my self obey the reminders.
I wish I was one of these people that have a relation to their reminders like the reminder is some military sergeant and you do what it says, without resisting the authority.
You mean like a transitioning ritual? If the transitional ritual is
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“When I realise that I should stop, instead set a 5 or 10 minute timer and stop when it goes off.” The problem is that I press the snooze again and again, sometimes for over an hour.
“Start an inner dialogue, e. g. like: “What do I gain from this? Why am I doing this?” Don’t consider it implicit pressure to stop, just an open, honest dialogue. The goal is not to stop right away, but to keep learning about yourself for a couple of weeks while you still do it. But for some people, they feel caught by themselves in the action and might stop right away; that is also okay.” I think this would work, but you do I get my self to start the dialogue in this moments? These situation that I don’t stop, mostly happens when I do something I find very interesting or I will like its very important.
“Make a deal with yourself to do something productive, and then continue the thing guilt-free. That feels much sweeter! The productive thing can be as little as to write a list, or to think about the tasks on the existing list and what it would feel like to do them.” Most of the times where I should stop but don’t, are when the next thing I need to do, is something that takes more then 60 minutes until its finished, so I can’t say to my self to just do it 5 minutes.
“Technical solution, such as Leechblock NG browser plugin to limit usage of some websites. Could have a time limit, or time of day limit, and can do a hard block or “soft” block by going black/white.” Yes, since the wifi block works great (if I remember to put out the SIM) I maybe should expand technical solutions to cover more.
I need this. Can you provide a link (if links are allowed?) or the name of the product? I would be very grateful
I wish I could get my self on a consistent bedtime
Masturbation makes me very tired after I done it, so I don’t think I should do it when I still have something to do in the day.
But right before bedtime, it helps to get sleepier