Sex is like anything. It can be great and it can also be destructive.
When I was younger I dated three people who engaged in destructive sex, two were hyper-sexual and the third was something else. Two were in college and the third was when I was in the Army. The two hyper-sexual ones were insatiable and as a young guy whose dick would get hard with the wind blew I loved it. In both cases we would have sex at least three times a day.
The third one was less entertaining. She had to cheat. She had to sneak off and fuck other people. She just could not help herself it was how she got off.
Looking back and thinking about two of them the hyper sexuality was really a symptom of their larger issue. The one I “dated” in the Army was clearly a Borderline or Bi-Polar I do not know which. She was actively being treated by a shrink. I put dated in quotes because people who have to wrestle with either of those are a real challenge to be with.
The one I dated in college would purge. I don’t know if she was bulimic or anorexic. I was a college kid wrapped up in all my own bullshit so I didn’t understand or get what I was seeing. “She just got sick a lot”
How come people have a coke addiction? I did a bump or two and felt just fine. Why can’t they just do a rail and be done with it?
Honestly, from what we hear, “sex addiction” is made-up bullshit by puritans to try and keep people in line and feeling properly ashamed about getting off.
Sex is totally normal. Porn is totally normal. Being horny is totally normal! Some people are just naturally hornier than others. (Some are less horny than the norm, too.) Being horny all the time isn’t an “addiction”, it’s just having a different baseline horniness level. But even besides that, how much of “sex addiction” is people with perfectly average horniness looking at porn or whatever a perfectly average amount being shamed for it, combined with everyone else around them hiding their own wanking/porn/whatever because “oh it’s shameful”, making the baseline look artificially low?
– Frost
I suppose it depends on your definition but you start calling it as an addiction, treating it as a problem, when it interferes with your life.
By all means, have all the sex you want in whatever variety you want, but it’s an addiction, a problem, when you decide it to the detriment of something else. It’s a problem if it interferes with work or home life or social life or hobbies, or if it causes harm to yourself or others.
If masturbation completely replaced sex, human history wouldn’t exist because we wouldn’t have reproduced like we did.
Masturbation is like eating a granola bar to replace a meal. Works fine to get by, but damn does it suck if that’s the only option to keep going.
