

“white men can’t experience racism and sexism”
A big problem here is that not everyone has a common definition for racism and sexism. Some definitions take existing power structures and historical context, and others don’t. A discussion about this topic should be started with what specifically each participant believes these terms mean. Otherwise you have two people talking about “sexism” but they are just talking past each other because they lack a shared understanding of the term as it is used.

YOU might think they are well defined terms, but there are people claiming with a straight face that “race X can’t be racist, because racism needs power structures” or all this other exceptionalism. They use every definition but the one in the dictionary.