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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • Did you get a diagnosis?

    If not, it’s possible this is anxiety from the relationship in a bad feedback loop.

    You seem to have some avoidance, she seems removed emotionally(exhaustion), and you both probably need to work on boundaries.

    I don’t mean to project. My last relationship of 5 years is almost perfectly described by your post including seeking an ADHD diagnosis in therapy. In my case it turned out she was never able to be emotionally available to me in the first place. That drove her to be critical of me and not provide intimacy which in turn caused me to be in a constant increasing state of anxiety about what next thing will I have fucked up. Severe executive dysfunction…






  • but their many relationships are entirely performative. and they have built up their entire life as one big act.

    Is precisely the part i disagree with if you’re going to generalize the way you did in your first reply. Hence talking about the experience even with honest meaningful deep non-performative relationships.

    it means they are mentally ill.

    Psychological health indeed impacts it, hence why i brought up depression and anxiety to name just two of many conditions that could contribute.

    The wealth disease, on the other hand, is probably generalizable in the way you’re suggesting. I couldn’t really care it someone is sad about being ultra-wealthy. Maybe they should give it up and be a depressed laborer like the rest of us.