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[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?English
6·1 year agoThis upsets me and I demand an apology.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?English
1·1 year agoOnly if I can come up with a way that the thing could possibly be my fault, intentional or not. Like making a decision without asking first, or because I reminded them of something upsetting without intending to like reminding them of something other than what we are talking about. The latter is going to be the ‘I’m sorry I upset you’ not a real apology, because I’m not really sorry for saying the thing, just that it caused them to be upset.
In the past I would apologize for things I didn’t do and all it did was make things worse because it was just a reflex response and it wasn’t like I could avoid doing things I didn’t do in the first place in the future.
At work I will apologize for things that may be due to not having enough information, but in that case at best I’m going to apologize for not finding out what I didn’t know. It is kind of bullshit, but at least they tend to provide more information in the future. It is catering to people who can’t admit their own faults to a degree, but ends up being like small talk, something we do to get other people to work as a team.
Architecture and engineering for construction are on par with doctors and nurses in medicine. Medicine has a ton of grunt work that doesn’t require higher education.
It doesn’t seem like you posted this question in good faith.
You are conflating the result of society filtering people with less education into blue collar work with the potential for the work to involve bigotry.
Saying people should avoid the trades because of the current culture reinforces the current culture by filtering it to the same uneducated pool of candidates. In a first world country higher education should be free so even those that go into trades have the opportunity to further their education without it being tied to their career goals.
What makes you think blue collar contexts have a higher potential for bigotry?
That’s true to an extent, but saying that a feminine woman or a feminine gay man (for example) would be treated better in a blue-collar job than in a white-collar one isn’t really grounded in reality.
Is anyone saying that?
It isn’t anti intellectualism, it is a overcorrection for the decades of insisting that going to college (and taking on massive debt in the US at least) is the right career path although it isn’t worth it anymore. It isn’t saying that knowledge and learning are bad, but they aren’t as economically advantageous as they were a couple decades ago.
The trades are good for a fairly quick return, but you are correct that they and to take a physical toll and the pay is generally exaggerated.
Offices are full of misogyny, homophobiaz and other forms of bigotry too.
A better approach would be to promote both on their own positives and negatives, but humans tend to swing wildly from one extreme to another.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's?English
51·1 year agoMore likely than 50 and 22…
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's?English
9·1 year agoThe high school to college transition makes things complicated for reasons other than just ages.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's?English
372·1 year agoThe half + 7 also makes it more likely that the two of you have some overlapping life experiences which helps a lot with compatability.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Should you look for a relationship if it feels like a compromise?English
10·1 year agoA relationship will always involve compromise on the details and day to day stuff, but the relationship itself should not feel like a compromise. From the way you are describing it, a relationship is not what you are looking for because a relationship is all of the things other than just the sex that you are interested in.
It really sounds like you want the sex without the effort.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•advertising and headers take up 50% of screen spaceEnglish
9·1 year agoSince using ublock origin I can’t remember the last time it didn’t automatically hide those now empty elements.
I have a wide variety depending on whether I’m cooking for myself, eating with others, and what is going on.
Generally in the mornings I make either over easy eggs with toast or breakfast burritos as both csn be whipped up in about 10 minutes with minimal cleanup. If I’m lazy in the evening I might make a can of soup with crackers, or beanie weenies that I can eat over a few meals. If I get some time and motivation on the weekend I will cook down onions, bell peppers, and jalepenos to use on the eggs and breakfast burrito during the weekdays.
Other than that it is fast food/takeout if I’m busy or unmotivated and if motivated I will make something random that takes around 6 ingredients because that is about my limit. Home made burgers, grilled vegetables, steaks with a side of broccoli or corn, etc.
Then if I have workplace appropriate leftovers I take those, although they also have salads for sale. I work from home 3 days a week and heat up whatever leftovers are around.
If you are absolutely unmotivated then simple sandwiches with an apple on the side worked for me when I didn’t cook enough for leftovers.
[deleted]@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is it realistic to hope that lemmy grows to the size of the bigger social media platforms?English
6·1 year agoNo, because it takes slightly more effort to understand and interact with than centralized social media without the firehouse of content.
If we addressed the core issues of people having what they need to live copyright would no longer have a reason for existing.
If the duration of copyright is short enough, why reduce it further based on heartbeat?
Generally they earn a somewhat stable income over time as an employee. Most artists do the vast majority of their work unpaid at the time and then try to make money off of all that work afterwards.
Plus companies wouldn’t be negatively affected by this change, so it is just punishment for individuals.



Later questions might give context for the earlier questions and going back would let people answer the first question accurately instead of skewing towards the answer they want.