My honest recommendation: realize that you’ve been sucked in to using youtube as an addictive coping mechanism. You say you love youtube, and I get it - there is a lot of fun stuff and a lot of useful information there. But YOU ARE WASTING YOUR LIFE. For many people, watching some youtube videos sometimes is fine - but for you, at this moment, you should strongly consider the tradeoff between continuing to watch videos and doing literally anything else in your life. Finding and spending time with a significant other, cooking healthy food and exercising, making new friends and spending time with old ones, advancing your career and making more money, creating art, exploring nature, learning about the world, becoming a valued member of your community, etc. Looking at those great big distant dreams you had during childhood and adolescence and chasing them!

I highly recommend that you do everything possible - EVERYTHING possible - to remove youtube from your life Right. Now. Seriously - take your tv off the wall, stand it up on the ground, and give it a swift kick in the screen with the toe of your boot. Or if you wanna be an environmentalist about it, list it for sale on fb marketplace and take it off the wall so you can hand it off as soon as someone comes around.

Install every app/site blocker you can on every device that you own. Pay for the premium version so you can get all the features to keep you off the platform.

Make plans for what you are going to do with the time you are no longer spending watching youtube. Hang out with friends. Sign up for a pottery class. Volunteer at the animal shelter. Clean your home up.

Your brain will fight you. It will say “but youtube is so fun, and I’m really invested in these channels right now, so I can just cut down a bit and it will be fine.” It will say “but youtube has lots of good information - what if I need to fix my car?” It will say “but youtube has a lot of cultural relevance - how will I keep up with the memes my friends are sharing without it?” Your brain is trying to protect itself from being deprived of its most consistent, low effort source of feel-good chemicals by coming up with all sorts of convincing-sounding reasons for never having to change. Don’t listen to it. For any benefit youtube might provide you with, you can get that somewhere else in the world. If you want to laugh, you can see a standup show or make jokes with your friends. If you want to learn something, you can read a book or take a class or read wikipedia or ask a friend who knows more. And the biggest one of all - if you want that feeling of feeling comfortable hearing about the small minutiae and updates of someone’s life that you’ve known for a long time, you can do that with your friends! You can do that, and have the other person actually know you exist!

And of course your brain will say “I’m not addicted, I just need to cut down a little, but I could stop anytime I want.” Yeah? Then prove it. Try to go 2 weeks without youtube. If you can’t, then you have a problem

I think you just described being “Not religious, but spiritual”.

So, like, you’re the worst

I’m just saying

They have established themselves as the critical and inescapable middleman between consumers and providers, not necessarily directly or exclusively but in every practical way possible and in such subtle ways that it’s not always obvious how much they actually control.

You can hear the creepy piano music when you read this

I mean, sure. But if that’s your standard for “mind control” then asking someone to pass the salt counts, too

This sounds like a weird conspiracy theory. Communicating with potential customers that your product exists and is good isn’t some concept that the advertising industry has somehow wrested from the hands of good hardworking people in return for their wages. It’s what marketing and advertising IS. It’s like saying the cheeseburger industry controls our access to cheeseburgers - like, kinda. But also, that’s kind of definitionally true. You can, of course, raise and slaughter your own cow to subvert the cheeseburger industry. And you can hand out fliers you made yourself advertising your business on the streetcorner. But it is a lot less work, and you’ll probably get a better product, if you outsource the work to a specialist

This is not, in any meaningful way, mind control. It’s just making something memorable. You don’t become a mindless zombie because you listened to a jingle. Instead, it just means that when Jerry, who is really busy because of his kids and career and hobbies has State Farm hike his rates, he will think “those motherfuckers! Who else sells insurance?” And will then remember the jingle.

I feel like This Blog Post is extremely relevant

Are you 14? Because it seems like you are posting here for the sake of picking a fight, rather than understanding anything.

The people responding to you are explaining the commonly accepted rationale for and history of the second amendment in an attempt to help you understand it. You seem to be taking this as full throated support of it, which I doubt many people here have.

I feel like I very much doubt the showmakers would claim the title “socialist” in their worldview

Because they asked a stupid question

I mean, first of all remember that it is a dumb internet community, and especially the ones like you describe tend to be populated by shut in neckbeards. You, meanwhile, have shit to do that is more important. Go do that shit.

If it is really invasive, then stop thinking about it and start feeling it. That is, don’t try to logic the feeling of how it was unfair, or they are assholes, or you’ve been mistreated. Instead focus on the sensations of the emotion you are feeling. You are feeling angry? How do you know you are feeling angry? A tightness of facial muscles? The hairs standing up on the back of your neck? Thoughts of violence or revenge? Notice the feeling with curiousity for a breath or two, or a minute or two if you still have time, or until the feeling passes and your mind wanders to something else.

Tbf, both C# and VB use NuGet. Which also functions as the command line software installer for Windows in general. So it is kind of what you are looking for.

I will point out in addition to the other comments here that a lot of algorithms for content are actually based in the science that comes directly from casinos. Casinos found that people didnt stick around as long if they never won, or even if they won a little consistently. The trick is to give them a long string of small losses, until they are just about ready to give up - then to give them a win to keep hope alive. This actually makes the habit form stronger and better than constant positive reinforcement.

So you know how you have to wade through the bullshit to get to the good stuff online…?

I feel like it is important to tag onto the top comment and note: anyone reading this does not “have” an attachment style. The way you interact with others will change based on the day of the week and what you ate for breakfast. There is no anxious-attachment neurotransmitter, nor an avoidant-attachment brain region. They are not switches we can flip on and off, nor boxes we can neatly categorize people into. In fact, the boxes themselves are made up, and could have been described in any number of other ways, had the original researchers thought about things differently at the time.

Attachment styles was a theory developed to explain psychological disorders in children, by describing how they interacted with their parents.

The styles are: secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant.

These were developed to describe patterns of behavior seen in children to communicate with other psychologists in a clinical context.

In recent years, it has been popular to apply the terms to adult romantic relationships. This has about the same utility as using Meyers-Briggs personality types, or a horoscope. If it is useful to you in troubleshoot your issues, then great! But it isnt good science - which we can tell from the fact that it divides people up into distinct groups. These sorts of groupings can be useful for scientists to communicate about population-level issues - but they are far less useful for the individual. To the extent that they are useful for individual categorization, they would be useful in categorizing the extremes - maybe 1% of adults could each be said to have anxious and avoidant attachment styles, and 0.1% with anxious-avoidant. Because we only care if this is causing real, significant issues in peoples lives - not just normal relationship (or lack-of-relationship) issues that everyone deals with.

The problem is that if you give an average person this framework, they will do a little online questionnaire and think to themselves “Oh no! Sometimes I do question my own worth!! And sometimes I do think that other people suck! I’m anxious-avoidant - I’m the worst, and no one will ever love me!!!” And of course, this now makes them a good target for a therapy course, or a new drug, or to watch your relationships youtube channel.

30 something guy here.

I oscillate. Usually somewhere between once every 2 days and 3x/day.

However, I’ve noticed that I feel almost no urge to masturbate when I spend a lot of time in nature - eg, on long backpacking trips. My theory is that - while there is nothing really wrong with masturbation - what is actually happening is that I am masturbating to counteract the stress of modern life. If I feel tired or lonely or anxious or sad, my brain knows it can feel happy chemicals just by beatin’ the ol’ bishop.

In this way, it feels similar to hunger. Sometimes I eat because I need food. But the vast majority of the time, I eat because I feel a compulsion to make myself feel good by eating.

So it might be worth considering if your desire of masturbate is coming from actual horniness, or a desire for some form of enjoyable escape from the moment you are in.

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You need to lift heavier
- blarghly

^ Show her this

I’ve had the best luck with cast iron, but my wife doesn’t like to use them because they’re heavy.

Tell your wife she needs to lift heavier