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Cake day: December 30th, 2023

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  • I’ll second this. I white knuckled my way through life for years. It sucked. Now I kind of get to choose when I don’t need the help. When I want to do some chaotic shit.

    If I’m working or working on an important personal project I’m medicated. But I want to explore 50 things and try new riffs on guitar or just go wherever the day takes me? I can do a couple of days unmedicated. And it’s fun! And I have no responsibilities I’m dodging so who cares if the laundry sits on my chair for two extra days? Then it’s back to being focused and calming that trainwreck in my brain.

    Like today. I had nothing going on. So I’m out here just freely flowing through life and not giving a shit. Monday I’ll need to get back on it.



  • It is exhausting. I’ve been in a relationship where my partner had no one but me. I don’t consider myself super outgoing but I have plenty of friends that I enjoy spending time with. I like playing music on the weekends. I like going to do things, sometimes last minute. I got fat and depressed because she just wanted to sit at home and for me to sit home with her.

    It soured me on relationships for a bit. The next one was the opposite. She wanted to be out every night and didn’t understand I had to work. She never ever wanted to just hang at the house. It was also exhausting.

    I’m open to a relationship if the person has similar patterns or doesn’t want me next to them 24/7. I can handle if they’re an independent person, but currently everything feels like either far too much or far too little so I’ve been doing my own thing for a while. I’ve got someone that I’m casual with. It’s perfect for now.






  • Oh trivia is great as well! There are a few other things depending on inclination. Some of the local joints here do paint and sip, line dancing, salsa dancing, wine pairing potlucks, and a bunch of other activities. If you add in breweries or distilleries you can find even more stuff.

    But I say that knowing bars aren’t for everyone for a variety of reasons. Not every area has breweries and distilleries.

    And yeah, karaoke is a different level of outgoing. I enjoy it in small doses and will fill in as the KDJ if someone needs me to, but doing that every week (or 3 times a week like some of these folks) is a bit much for me, and that’s coming from a dude who has a hobby of playing music in bars.


  • I do like local live music shows for that if you’re into local music, especially if you hit up the same venue every week for a bit. You’ll meet the other regulars.

    A buddy of mine goes to karaoke every week, rain or shine. He moved to a new place a few years ago and within a couple of months he already had a group that he could hang out with elsewhere.







  • All of the formerly food delivery apps are like that. I hate it. And if you don’t get your stuff often enough or if the restaurant gets your order wrong too often they’ll tell you that you’re not allowed to get your money back anymore. And if you do a chargeback they won’t let you order until you pay them.

    And that’s fine with me because I stopped using them a few years ago except once in a very great while. But I feel sorry for the people who rely on food delivery because they’re disabled or have time constraints due to working half a dozen jobs to make ends meet. I’ve got a buddy who can’t use Uber eats anymore because of this. He’s taking care of two kids and holding down a job that has him working far more than he should and he has no executive function and very little time left over.