

The biggest factor is having a solid relationship. Which it sounds like you do. And trust me, that’s a far bigger hurdle than you think. All in, the woman has a lot more risks in having kids than you do. So if she’s willing to go for it, you might want to dig up some courage.
And yeah, easy for me to say, I took the plunge over a decade ago. So I have the luxury of hindsight. But I can also tell you, watching my kids discover the world, is like discovering it again myself. Sometimes even better, though often times far stickier. There’s so many sticky discoveries. Also it’s grounding for yourself. Raising your kids puts the world, and yourself, into perspective in a lot of ways that are deeply self affective.
In the end though it’s like telling someone how to drive a car, or ride a bike. I could explain it all damn day, that doesn’t mean you would learn how to ride, or drive. It’s something you have to do to actually learn. All I can say is that the scary cliff of becoming a parent, doesn’t get any less scary. It is worth it though. And I’d be willing to bet the overwhelming majority of those with kids would say the same.




What kind of weirdo doesn’t like celery? Next you’re going to tell me rhubarb is too tart, or you have to cook fennel.